Today’s world is big about tolerance, but what is tolerance? As a Christian I hold certain unpopular beliefs and we’re often seen as very intolerant to other people. However, I really don’t think we are, please let me explain:
A detour about bravery
I have two kids, one of them loves spiders and the other one is terribly afraid of them, once she sees them she runs away and will not enter that room again until I ensure her I removed the spider. Recently, we went to a zoo where you can pet giant spiders and I encouraged my kids to do so. The one that loves spiders was excited and would have done so for a long time. The second was, not surprisingly, afraid and it took her a lot of courage to pet the spider. Which of my kids was braver? To me it is obvious that the second one was much braver. It was no big deal for the first, he didn’t overcome any fears, he simply was curious. Great as this is, this is no courage. But the second was very brave and overcame her fears. So to be brave, we first have to be afraid. Bravery is overcoming ones fears, without fear there can be no bravery.
How does this apply to tolerance?
I think the same applies to tolerance as well. Imagine a Christian who thinks a certain behaviour is bad for you and another person who has no particular opinion about that topic. Then finally, a third person who does said behaviour. What if they’re all friends, who is the tolerant one? To me the person without a particular opinion is not tolerant, they simply agree. The christian is tolerant, not allowing his disagreement on an issue interfer with his love for the person. The person with said behaviour is probably also tolerant for being friends with a Christian ;). So similar to bravery, you can only be tolerant if you disagree first. Tolerance is overcoming ones disagreements, without disagreement there can be no tolerance.
Now what about me?
I have many views that are often seen as intolerant (and I’m not going to mention them here, but if you are interested please feel free to contact me). However, these views are not intolerant, they’re simply disagreement. I disagree with many of my own behaviours and think they’re not good for me either. However, this does not interfere with my love for people (including myself). So rest assured, even if you are afraid that I might disagree with certain of your behaviours or views, please do not shy back from interacting with me. Exactly these disagreements allow for our tolerance and love to play out. And exactly this tolerance fosters the diversity that advances science.








